~ Brandon Dyers - Chicago, Illinois
~ Darren James - San Diego, California
Everyone should be responsible, and protection is just common sense. Having a couple condom choices (latex, non-latex, etc) will show your fuck buddy you’re serious about their comfort and your safety. Other protection options are great too, female condoms, dental dams, and spermicidal film are all great options outside of the classic condom wrapper!
There’s plenty of time to chat between your initial hello and meeting up, so take that time to be honest about your looks, your needs, and how you want things to go. Nothing spoils a fuck date like unmet expectations, so if you show up in a leather catsuit and she’s expecting traditional sex, you’re going to have a bad time. If you’ve got a unique need or you just want to make sure anal sex is an option, the initial conversations are a great time to ensure you’re both looking for the same kind of hook up. Honesty will ensure that both you and your fuck buddy are getting off all night.
Skip the filters and fancy angles for flattering, but realistic photos. Speaking of photos, make sure she sees your face BEFORE she sees your dick. 10 out of 10 women don’t want to see your penis before they know what you look like upstairs. Make sure your profile includes one good portrait shot (your face and shoulders), one interesting full body shot that shows your realistic, current body type, and then any other pics you like. You don’t want your fuck date to bail because you look different than your pictures. It sounds silly, but you fuck date is really more concerned about your desires and personality than they are your body.
Manners matter, and while you’ll be engaging in raunchy talk soon enough, let your initial message be a simple, non-creepy introduction. Sure, be honest that you’re looking for sex – after all – this is a sex dating site. Just use your manners and ease into the nasty stuff after she knows your name and has seen your profile. Trust me, you won’t have to wait long before the sexy messages start and you’re setting a time and place to meet up!
Funny and smart guys are the sexiest. Women are drawn to witty and interesting people, so show yourself off. Put your hobbies and sense of humor on display as much as your sex appeal. Fuck dating sites are a great way to show off, and you don’t want to limit yourself to a few kinks and a dozen dick pics. You’re better than that, and a few nice shots of your face and a joke or two can be the difference between wondering what went wrong and an inbox full of sexy messages from the ladies.
Find out what your fuck date is looking for. People will tell you what they want if you just listen, and an open ear is a great way to get a reputation for fulfilling fantasies. Think of it this way, would you rather get what you want with a partner who’s unimpressed with you, or do you want your fuck date to remember you for being the ultimate fantasy? The difference between those things is usually just the ability to listen and respond appropriately. Seriously, it’s that easy.
Most cities have swingers venues, sex clubs, and more. Consider meeting your fuck date at a place like this for the first time. It’s public, so it’s safer, and couples often receive better pricing than singles. These environments allow you both to explore, try new things, and get to know each other in a low pressure, highly sexualized area. It’s also more adventurous and interesting than the cliché hotel meet-up. If you’re going to dive into fuck dating, make yourself a catch!
Sending drunk messages almost ensures that you’re going to be your least charming self, so sober up before sending those messages! Fuck dating is all about first impressions. Make a good one!
Take the time to tell your potential fuck date what you do for a living, your hobbies, and the things you’re passionate about. Furthermore, take the time to ask those questions of them. The more you know about someone, the better idea you have of how to approach them. It’s not a miracle formula; women aren’t a mystery. Just speak and listen to the responses, and your potential match will tell you just what they’re all about.